Considering architecture is a creative profession, we sure do have a white knuckle grip on a traditionally structured model of practice. Women are redefining what it means to be an architect. Stop weighing down your career trajectory with old assumptions about what work looks like.
Beware of two common false choices about practice:
Being a good/wife/mother/daughter/sister etc. OR having a full throttle career
Asserting yourself and making bold career moves OR being nurturing and likable
Women's careers can be restricted in two ways. Societal bias about our motivations or capabilities and self sabotage in the form of guilt related to the false choices.
When women feel like there is no choice but to struggle, they feel unfulfilled and so they leave. Seek out mentors and know that you are an example for others.
Creating a sense of belonging means redefining work in terms of the resources available and structures that accommodate a different practice model.
To amplify your career without taking on added stress, reach out to an expanded network, question the "reasons" why you are blocked, and give yourself agency to ask for the opportunities you want.